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How to unlock greater joy from within every moment

In my last post I proposed that the absolute pinnacle of our aspiration might simply be to interact with the world in a way that we are rewarded with joy; that such a reward would have to be based on a struggle on our part to do something worthwhile such as making a living, taking care of family or doing good for people not in our immediate circle.

Interestingly in an earlier post I had mentioned that the choice that each moment presents to us can reward us if we choose to do in it a good act because the good act creates a good effect that would benefit us.

Now you might see that there is a relation between experiencing joy that I mention in the first paragraph and the choice that we make [that I present in the second]. This relation is simply that the choice can lead to joy.

But the key as it were to unlocking from this choice its latent joy is the ‘intention’ with which I prepare for each choice.

If we intend in each moment to do well, good will happen and if we compromise on our intention we will suffer a more inadequate outcome [than would have been had we intended well].

So it is as if the tool we really need to work on to experience joy in each moment is ‘our intention’.

Most interestingly fasting in the month of Ramazan offers an opportunity to do just this. When we stay without food or water the whole day we are clearly strengthening our power to intend things. Naturally if one can control himself in one situation they could control themselves in another situation for they could exercise the same self control again. It is very much like the act of fasting helps you sharpen your intention like a smith sharpens his knife.

The sharper your knife is the more bread you can cut with it. This is similar to how a sharper intention will lead to better choices that would thus unlock higher levels of the much sought joy.


  1. ...the choice can lead to joy.

    ...the the ‘intention’ with which I prepare for each choice.

    ...if we compromise on our intention we (compromise) outcome

    ... The sharper intention will lead to better choices that would thus unlock higher levels of the much sought joy.

    This progression is again so seamless back and forthe between the practical and spiritual as are the others.

    Do you mind divulging more of your favorite writers and their works?

    Everytime I see your blog I hope you are recording each item for a book.

  2. These ideas have come about owing to a few people who were kind enough to try knock sense into me.
    The movie 'Revolver' by Guy Ritche was very helpful. You must watch it and then watch it again with the commentaries. [I have a post on this.]
    Most recently The Matrix Trilogy [helped me understand the significance of 'choice' - also 'cause and effect']
    Recently the following links have been helpful:
    [The members of this group have been instrumental in making me aware of my heart.]
    Khurram Sahab's workshops have provided much insight.
    Second lecture from 'Reconstruction of Religious Thought' by Allama Iqbal - explained consciousness as the fundamental unit of knowledge and explained how

    it works. [For any moment: we bring to that point all knowledge from the past - that we have - revlevant to that momement and our 'purpose from that moment

    on' whatever that may be combines with it to [I understand] to create 'consciousness' [in that moment].
    Javadinama - Allama Iqbal [The children's version in English]
    The documentary: The Arrivals -
    Paraphrasing: "We are spirtual beings in a material world not material beings seeking spirtuality"
    Paraphrasing: "Fighting an atheist with secularism is like fighting fire with gasoline"
    Introduction to Logic - By Copi [By far the most important text I have come across. 13th Edition. Chapters 1-4]
    My post titled "Model Based Learning" is owing to a discussion I had with a cousin
    A course on strategic managment by Dr.Mehnaz Fatima
    There is an article on Strategic Managment on wikipedia. Most of her text was compiled chapter by chapter from a diverse series of books. [ There was also

    a main reference text which I will tell you as soon as I find it] - "Strategic Managemnt is a people process" - Dr. Mehnaz Fatima
    Edward De Bono's book "Lateral Thinking"
    My post titled "Why did Imam Hassan (AS) not fight while Imam Hussain (AS) did?" from a discussion I had with a teacher.
    Kant's essay on enligtenment
    "Lateral Thinking" by Edward De Bono
    My own attempt at using common sense to make sense of the following questions:
    1) Why should I follow religion
    2) Is there such a thing as reality? If there is what is it?
    3) In light of the second, understanding the first
    4) De-compartmentalization [there is a post on it]
    Misc [but important material]:

    Bram Stocker's Dracula - in understanding that love can be very harmful to the self, if it is based purely on selfishness
    MIT World - Audio lectures from a course on Psychology.
    -How do you think
    -Social Exchange Theory

  3. Sublinks from the following site are:


    Once again the text on Logic by Copi is "by far the most important resource I have come across"

  4. Btw Connie do you think this blog can be published as a book?

    It's not a bad idea if it can be done! :)


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