Saturday, March 29, 2008

Why did Imam Hassan (AS) not fight while Imam Hussain (AS) did?

When the prophet of Islam (PBUH) came it was the dark ages in Arabia. Bad was the norm. The message of the prophet was in stark contrast to this bad. It stood out. While collectively people must have wanted change for gradually they started accepting his message together they could not have brought about this change without him.

At the time of Hazrat Ali (AS) this difference between him and Muavia was not that clear to the people. They both wrote letters to each other quoting verses from the Quran. Even today some hold Muavia in respect naming their children Ameer Muavia.

Yazid was not as clever as Muavia and decided to go to any length necessary to kill Imam Hussain (AS). The first attempt on his life was when Imam Hussain (AS) was called to the court of marwan. The Imam went with his companions and told them to enter the court if he raised his voice. When marwan was about to attack Imam Hussain (AS), the Imam raised his voice and his companions came into the court. Thus an attempt on the Imam’s life was averted. The second attempt was when the Imam was planning for Hajj and was informed that assassins will be sent to kill him at Hajj. He then converted his Hajj to Umrah and left early thus averting the second attempt on his life. The Imam left and was stopped at Karbalah by Yazid’s army. On the 7th of Muharram when the water supply to the caravan was stopped the Imam ensured that the battle would not be fought on the grounds of “fighting for water”. Evenutally Yazid’s army declared war on Imam Hussain (AS) and what had started out as an attempt to quietly eliminate the Imam was made public to the world. Hazrat Zainab a member of his family went onto tell the story of Karbalah to the muslims. Yazid was unsuccessfull but Imam Hussain (AS) was successful – Yazidiyat was made public, Yazidiyat was killed.

In the case of Imam Hassan (AS) and Muavia, such a battle did not take place simply because Muavia had decided not to wage a public war on the Imam and for the Imam the priority was not to fight Muavia but preach the people an act that he was doing.

Imam Hussain (AS) till the end did not declare a war on Yazid, Yazid did on Imam Hussain (AS). If Yazid had not declared war on Imam Hussain (AS) then the Imam would have done what his elder brother did and Karbalah would not have taken place.

My Criteria for my marriage partner

1) She should be a home maker. 10 on a scale of 10
2) I should be able to fall in love with her and her with me … 7 on a scale of 10.

First criteria:

10 on a scale of 1-10 for this criteria because I consider my family my second self. The better my partner will be at making my family the best the better off my second self will be. Who doesn’t want to aim for the best? In accordance with this she should have the best of the characteristics that every home maker should have:

1) Intelligent
2) Practical
3) Ability to take stress and bounce back – agility of mind
4) High level of commitment
5) Principled
6) Caring
7) Want her children to be the best
8) Want to learn how to make her children the best

Of course there is an ideal woman out there who would rank very high in all these areas. But then I have to be practical too. I would want to marry the most ideal woman who is compatible with me. Compatibility is covered in the second criteria.


Second Criteria:

Description of scale:

5: passes the basic criteria i.e. she is moderately attractive, sufficiently confident, talks sense. She may be quite different from people I have ever come across.

6: She can blend in with my family

7: I have a feeling of affection for her. I develop a comfort level before marriage that is equivalent to that I have with my best school friends

8: I have a stronger click i.e. intellectual wave sync such that she matches the best person I know in each of the positive roles I assume in my life.

9: Marrying her is the best romance that I have ever imagined. From Romeo and Juliet, to Laila Majnu, to the best in the relationships of successful couples I know that have loved each other from their beginnings.

10: A romance that is beyond my imagination.

Thursday, March 20, 2008

Comparing a 27 year old with a 16 year old

It is interesting how during introspection I have often looked at my past comparing it to my present. Only today I realized that I am actually comparing a 27 year old with a 16 year old and that also the same person.

Sometimes I felt that the 16 year old was better than me but while that may have been a feeling generated out of a more stable environment I know that that 16 year old was in no way better. The litmus test: If I was today put in the same stable environment I would achieve ‘at least’ as much and make some of the same mistakes perhaps, albeit fewer of them.

This then implies that I have been growing for the last 27 years if not steadily then at times through a period of flux at the end I have still been growing.

Today then at the age of 27 I stand with what I am with what I have accomplished. I should therefore not compare myself with any time in the past, just think of how to make the best of the road ahead.