Saturday, March 29, 2008

My Criteria for my marriage partner

1) She should be a home maker. 10 on a scale of 10
2) I should be able to fall in love with her and her with me … 7 on a scale of 10.

First criteria:

10 on a scale of 1-10 for this criteria because I consider my family my second self. The better my partner will be at making my family the best the better off my second self will be. Who doesn’t want to aim for the best? In accordance with this she should have the best of the characteristics that every home maker should have:

1) Intelligent
2) Practical
3) Ability to take stress and bounce back – agility of mind
4) High level of commitment
5) Principled
6) Caring
7) Want her children to be the best
8) Want to learn how to make her children the best

Of course there is an ideal woman out there who would rank very high in all these areas. But then I have to be practical too. I would want to marry the most ideal woman who is compatible with me. Compatibility is covered in the second criteria.


Second Criteria:

Description of scale:

5: passes the basic criteria i.e. she is moderately attractive, sufficiently confident, talks sense. She may be quite different from people I have ever come across.

6: She can blend in with my family

7: I have a feeling of affection for her. I develop a comfort level before marriage that is equivalent to that I have with my best school friends

8: I have a stronger click i.e. intellectual wave sync such that she matches the best person I know in each of the positive roles I assume in my life.

9: Marrying her is the best romance that I have ever imagined. From Romeo and Juliet, to Laila Majnu, to the best in the relationships of successful couples I know that have loved each other from their beginnings.

10: A romance that is beyond my imagination.

2 comments:

  1. Interesting thoughts, but just wondering if you are looking for a bit too much. Its good to know what you want out of life in every aspect, but with a partner, I think its just that you come across someone interesting, you guys just click. Of course for that to happen, the partner definitely ranks high on your conscious and unconscious preferences, but you may actually come to appreciate some of their qualities after you actually meet them. And some of the things that you dont like about them, you learn to accomodate, cause at the end of the day, your partner is also entitled to an existence beyond the relationship.
    Hope you understand what I am trying to say. With human beings, unfortunately you cant look for that kind of specifications. I understand these are probably your preferences and not pre-conditions, but my approach would be to let things unfold with as little expectations as possible. with expectations, not only would it be difficult to find a partner, but that you would probably have to compromise on something. So best to let things be :)

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  2. I think I follow what you are saying, which is: don't go in with expectations this way there will be a higher chances of a click espeically if I come across some attribute i have never come across before that I fall for.

    ...and thats a very good attitude thankyou for suggesting it.

    What you are saying actually addresses the 'click' issue which is the second of my criteria. The first being that she should be a 'home maker'.

    The scale I have presented in my second criteria is simply different levels of 'click' even point 6 which too would improve my comfort level.

    from 5 on the scale which is:
    "...moderately attractive, sufficiently confident, talks sense. She may be quite different from people I have ever come across."

    I move up to:

    6 on the scale: "6: She can blend in with my family"

    7 on the scale: "...a comfort level...that I have with my best school friends"

    and so on...

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