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Acknowledging our emotions

Clearly it is important to let out our emotions; to find some means to express and release them. It was suggested that we allow ourself to feel whatever feeling comes toward us in the moment before us such that we submerge in that feeling. Once we connect with the feeling we ought to express it and thereby release it.

One method to give expression to feeling that I read online was through movement. So that we move spontaneously synchronized with feeling and it said doing this releases couped up emotions. Yoga too is an extremely powerful tool to enable emotional catharsis. As is writing poetry.

It is important to remember though that the goal of catharsis is a healthier self and therefore movement toward a stronger character. Therefore it should not lead to a compromise of (our) intent.


  1. The suggestion of movement and writing poetry I have found to be extremely helpful...even dancing prayers when alone, especially at night as I go from room to room of my loved ones..

    When I helped a son to work on his class project in writing, it was on keeping the journal. We both learned that expressing feeling in such writing is more valuable for emotional health than talking out the much so that insurance companies sometimes (used to? Still do?) allow for discounts to those who keep journals! Of course, Poetry could be kept in the journals.

    Your caution added at end is especially valuable.

    Bless your work & life, Faraz!

  2. Yes I have experienced that movement really brings out catharsis. I personally use this tool by way of drawing in very fast movements of hand and just in ten minutes of this speedy drawing I find a focused and relaxed mood that usually comes after a long meditation or a concentrated prayer.

  3. Wow Akhtar sahab, that sounds amazing and very fantastic!

  4. hmm...I always find writing the best way to release my exhaustion or stress....

    But sometimes...we need to talk...and need a good listner...too...

    So I always try to talk to my MAKER...who else could be the better listner then HIM?

  5. PS Thinking's comment & Faraz wholistic point brings up certain health items I've read recently about the great value of nurturing relationships. Although writing and praying can't be replaced - yet as I'm rather intro-spective, I've been reminded to open up a little to friendships by seeking to be a bit more outgoing with the "right" people, known & possible one or two unknown...yet cautiously...

    Oh, and sounds like fun to try Dar Sahib's painting technique!

    Maybe we can keep this essentially important conversation going a little longer?

  6. Like every other big challenge this one of nurturing our hearts and becoming emotionally attuned to our surroundings one could approach this in small and tiny steps. Such as:

    Small gestures toward my nephews and nieces; toward other relatives and friends; each gesture holds tremendous weight behind it. Owing to the meaning we give to these gestures.

    It's these little things that contribute toward making life rich for us: an email (for example) that i just sent my niece a short while ago - as I wrote it I felt that connectedness with her.

  7. When spoken from our hearts even small gestures have the power to convey enormous meaning.

  8. Exactly! I am constantly seeing the amazing value of the small given or perceived with the heart.

    See my recent post with the William James and the William Blake quote.

    I'd love to see your response to that and connect the jist with this post if you have the time? :)

    I think you'd love to see Dar Sahib's comment at least...:)


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